Personally: I wouldn’t date someone 8 years younger than me. I am looking for an equal. If I thought my equal was 8 years younger… I’d work on maturing, and find a potential partner who is at least within a few years of my age. Especially if one has talked about how mature they are and how ready they are for the “real thing”. A girl just a year older than your own little sister might be wonderful and a ton of fun. But an equal? A partner? A person who is remotely “ready”? At best a 21 year old is just beginning to figure out what “ready” means, and is a long way from being even close to settling down and having something real, no matter how good intentioned or “mature for their age”.
Personally: I think a persons blog is for them to write about whatever the hell they want. Putting your life totally out there is foolish… but to vent or make a point on one’s own personal blog, is kind of what the blog is for. Not just showing off your new shit. And if I had no respect for the person I am venting about, I’d name names. If you know me already, then yes, maybe you know who I am talking about. But odds are, if you know me already, you also know the things I am writing before I write them. So this isn’t a surprise to you. And if you don’t know me, you have no idea who this person is. So what’s the damage?
Personally: I take my relationships seriously and when I say “I love you”, it is not conditional. If a relationship doesn’t work out, but you have spent years of your lives together making genuine effort and knowing very deep personal things… it’s pathetic and kind of disgusting in a hypocritical way to let birthday’s pass unacknowledged. It is also dead wrong to justify leaving them to pay thousands of dollars you were responsible for no matter what caused the break up. Especially considering the person you did this to spent thousands upon thousands of dollars on you during the relationship, and you hardly contributed shit. Makes you come off as a user, an ingrate, and one who takes advantage and has no appreciation. Both points: a fake. Neither point a shocker.
Personally: I think a girl you know of because she is dating your date, is no friend. It’s hardly an acquaintance. And to say you think the idea of your date fucking someone else is “hot”, is a prime example of emotional immaturity and is kind of gross. And trashy. What it ISN’T: classy.
Personally: If for almost 3 years you dick someone around, emotionally abuse them, throw their family problems in their face, constantly criticize them and their lives, insult their career, walk in and out of their lives, throw them up against the wall on their birthday when you take them out of town “just to shut them up”, etc. all the while claiming to “love them”… and they wind up so unable to cope with your shit anymore that they pin you down and scream in your face after tolerating being treated less than they deserve for years: can you really claim to be a total victim? Give me a break. Everyone has their breaking point. Is a month of abuse the same, worse, or less than 3 years of it? I’m not sure, but I know if you can’t take it don’t dish it out. We all make mistakes. Your were forgiven. Yet when your partner made ONE mistake, you fucking bailed even though you dished out way worse for years longer. Don’t act like a victim when you were the main abuser, and when the whole world we surround ourselves with kind of knows what an ass hole you were to me. And how much I took.
Just had to get that off my chest. I’m tired of fucking filtering what I say because “one day” I *might* be friends with someone who has pretty much always treated me like this.
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